Disciplining a Child by the Carrot and Stick Approach

Disciplining a child is difficult. Many ways have been suggested. One way to discipline our children is by the carrot and stick approach. “Carrots” are privileges that have to be earned or incentives that will motivate them to do complete their task. These rewards are such as watching television, playing a computer game, or going outside to play with their friends.

“Sticks” on the other hand, are punishment or disciplinary actions for work not done or when a child disobeys his or her parents. This punishment does not mean caning the child. It can be carried out in different ways, for instance, a time-out, grounding, or removal of a privilege like watching TV.

A time-out works well on older children. A two-year-old will not be able to understand the significant of a time-out. If you have to give one as punishment, this has to be done immediately or your child will get confused. A rule of thumb is one minute for each year of the child’s age. Sometimes, a cuddle and a comforting word after the time-out also helps the child to know that giving out punishment is not about you not loving him or her but about their behaviour.

While you become clear on what behaviors will be punished, parents should also keep in mind that rewarding good behaviors are important as well. The positive effect that praise can have should not be underestimated. For instance, saying you are proud of your child for finishing their house chores is usually more effective than punishing the child for the opposite behaviour – not doing house chores. Parents should be specific when giving their praise; do not just say, “Good job”. Discipline is not just about punishment but also about recognizing good behavior.

Source by Ryna Buji

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